3D vs 5D Communication Revisited

3D vs 5D Communication Revisited.

This pretty much describes what I have been thinking lately.

Truth

“And that it’s possible to talk to someone without any lies, with no sarcasms, no deceptions, no exaggerations or any of the things that people use to confuse the truth.”  – Powder, 1995

Communication is a huge part of humanity which should get us to understand more about each other. We speak to our family, our friends, our neighbours, our lovers etc. but when we think we know each other, there are times the truth is left unsaid. The quote above explains very well how we have all become when we communicate with each other. Someone asks you how you are and you answer back saying: ‘I am fine’ or ‘Everything is great’, when at times you know so well that you are not okay. We go around lying to each other, lying to ourselves just to express how we want to feel as opposed to how we really feel.

As humans there is a sense of seperation between us where a majority feel they are different from each other. You see a very jolly and happy person and may automatically think they have no problems in their life. In this highly ego driven world where competition is first hand in the race of being the best, there is no doubt that people would rather lie than tell the truth.

What we need to understand is that while we think we are doing the right thing, we are also fooling each other. How’s that for truth? We all deal with issues because it is part of our growth. Without challenges, there is no growth. Without pain, there is no growth. So then what I am trying to understand is why people do it.

Fair enough there is a lack of trust. Nobody is just going to open up to anyone, but at the same time a whole conversation based on small talk, or complete deception to me, is a waste of time. I’d rather not. I see around me people speaking to impress each other. They talk about how great a certain part of their life is and avoid speaking about what’s not so good. They’ll tell you anything to boost their ego, to make themselves look better. So when faced with hardship what will they do then? Nobody wants to look weak or seem like a burden but then again, nobody is as strong as they think they are especially when they hide how they feel all the time.

Vulnerability expresses an authentic human being. We may all want to be happy but happiness is a state of mind. It cannot always be that way everytime. We go through similar problems in different ways so we all could do with learning from each other.That is why I feel it is important to speak truth a lot more.

Truth = Freedom.

We just don’t know each other

Assumptions, perceptions, allegations…

After close observation and contemplation, I have come to a realisation that we don’t know each other. I’m not only talking about people we hardly see or talk to once in a while, celebrities or people in the public eye, even people we may call our closest friends, family and loved ones. We may think we know each other, yet we have no idea.

We all can’t easily read each other and it has been proven by the assumptions we create in our minds. We all see the world with different eyes and our judjments are not always going to be the same. I can tell you right now that what I think of myself as a person is completely different to what others think of me, and I am sure a lot of people would agree for themselves. If you are not told how it really is, you never really know the truth. It happens all the time. Why do celebrities do reality shows? I don’t know the true answer to this but most of the reasons they say they do it is to get viewers to see their true colours. I can’t say all the reality shows convey the realness of a person as they get manipulated a lot, but I can say that you do get to see people in different ways other than what is written or said about them through different sources. We have got to a point where assumption is the norm and when the truth is told, it’s real shock.

I have to be honest with you, I was inspired to write this post after watching Justin Bieber: Never Say Never. You know how you always hear things about him and you end up making that judgment into you own, well that’s how it was for me. As much as the guy is loved, a lot of people talk a lot of shit about him, and I am still wondering why. Fair enough anyone who starts living their dream or does something beyond the mediocre, they will get haters. But you can’t sit there and talk like you’ve known someone their whole life when you’ve probably never met them. This doesn’t just go for Justin Bieber.

We all don’t know each other because we don’t speak enough truth. The world is very ego driven, competitive and inauthentic. I say inauthentic because a lot of us are living a lie. We’d rather talk about what we have accomplished and what we have done to make us feel good than how we really feel. It’s very sad.

I am starting to respect people as they are, we all do things and say things that not everyone is not going to agree with. But as humans, we all make mistakes, we grow, we move on and we do it all again. I think we all need to realise that we are all the same. We all want a better life, we all want to be appreciated and respected. We all want to live with a purpose. We all want to be understood and most of all, we all want to be loved.

Why I write…

This post is going to be quite personal and a little random.

As I sit here writing this, I am wondering what exactly I am going to write. But as soon as this is done, I am sure it will make sense. One thing I’d like to admit is that I am afraid of my own abilities. I go on like I don’t know what I can do, when I know exactly what it is. Lately I have been so ungrounded that I find it difficult to distinguish everything as it is. I live in my head a lot that at times when I set myself to do something, in my head it feels like it’s already been done. I have had this fear in me that’s paralysed me from doing the very thing that I want to do. It’s so frustrating and at times I forget that I am the one that can stop it.

Have you ever been put in a situation where you want to do something that is completely out of your comfort zone and you start to feel the fear before you have already started? Well it happens to me all the time. And it is about time I put a stop to it! I mean really I have read so many self help books, watched inspirational videos to the point where everything I hear is a constant repetition. So, I believe it is about time I put all that knowledge to work. Yes!!!

I am typing out of frustration because I know I know better. This post has the title ‘Why I write’ and I haven’t even written anything about that yet. So here goes…

I write because it’s the one thing I can do that makes me feel good inside. I get butterflies when I write, and when I write I feel like it’s all coming from a place I do not physically know of. I mean I can describe it as much and as hard as I want but the words will not be enough to describe it. Basically what I am trying to say is…. It’s a passion.

I love to write and I love to write about all things inspiring. Writing is something that is special to me and if you are passionate about something you will know what I mean. Whether I get anything out of what I write or not, all I know is that I will never give it up.

The sad thing about what I am about to write is that I put myself down a lot. I am very critical in what I do and I am a perfectionist. I like to feel like it’s the right time to do things. I over-think and over-analyse to the point I forget to do the very thing I was supposed to do. This is another habit I need to put aside. The best way to start doing something is to be kind to yourself. Remind yourself that everyday is a learning process. I might not have done the best I could yesterday, but tomorrow I can do better. That is my motto.

I will keep writing and I will keep working to inspire because it’s what makes me feel like me.

 

ps. I feel bad for neglecting this blog for so long

Individuality

Being an individual is more than just being a number in this world. It’s also about self respect and self love. The more you grow, the more you discover your individuality. So far in this world I believe we have been conditioned to conform, follow and sacrifice our true selves in order to fit it or feel secure. However it does not make a person complete because it leaves you with a false sense of self.

Too many people are doing things to keep up with someone else or stay ahead of people and will do what it takes to ‘feel’ like they are in front. That illusion will only distant you from knowing your true purpose. As well as this, doing something because you feel like you have to, creates a feeling of emptiness towards it. People want an ally in order to feel like they are doing something right. It seems as if we are living in a fear based world and most things we do are based on FEAR.

In my opinion, the whole reason for doing something is to have an inner purpose for it. We all have choices and I’ve seen that it’s very easy to ignore them. Obviously there are some things that have to get done for the purpose of reasonable results, such as working to earn etc. On the other hand this subject is about staying true to yourself. I will use myself as an example:

I am a very complicated individual and it has become apparent to me for a while now. I sometimes do not understand the things I do. However I have realised that the more I learn about myself, the more I respect who I am as an individual. You will always know what is best for you and if you don’t then it’s time you take care of yourself before you look into others to identify yourself. I learn from my own experiences and find it hard to learn from what I have been told. Therefore I make a lot of mistakes. But from those mistakes I learn from them and move on knowing better than I did before. That’s just me.

Remember;

Life is not a race.

Do what you love and love what you do.

Listen to yourself and be you.

Sunday’s thoughts

Why is it that…

We cover up all our feelings, emotions, our deepest thoughts?

Could it be the fear of not being understood, accepted or liked? Or could it be that the world has made us believe that emotions do not matter. It seems to be all about focus, strength, power and competition.

I will admit right now there has been so many times I’ve cried and have felt down. And most of the times instead of telling someone, I withdrew from everybody. I did not want anyone to see my tears. I did not want anyone to think “I am weak”. It hurt because it made me feel alone and I did not realise why I felt alone, so I blamed it on the people I felt closest to and concluded it with “They do not care about me”.

Now I know we are not seperate from each other. We all go through emotional times, it’s part of being human. When you open up, you realise you have a lot more in common with people than you think.

Epiphany

Okay, so I just had a really good thought today about my current job.

I am the advert like our manager said and we have to promote the company and also try to grab customers to book appointments where they’ll receive free quotes. This being a roof renovation company may make the whole situation seem impossible like I thought in the beginning but in fact it very much is possible. This brought me to have this thought about life. (Since I always look at everything as a life lesson):

We all have things we are interested in and for those who would like to share their interest, passion, beliefs, ect, we may have thoughts in our heads telling us nobody is going to care, we are not good enough or that whatever It is, is not worth sharing. However, for every time you go about promoting that interest of yours you will always get 1 person who will like that idea you have or may be interested in the same thing.

This goes for my job right now. We knock on doors, maybe 100 and out of that 100 we will always get 1 person interested. This could also lead to more people and before you know it, it all becomes a sort of chain reaction and you’ll start attracting more people.

So, the main thing I am trying to say right now is never give up on what you believe in for it may change someone’s life. When you put yourself out there, you will attract more people of the same kind.

It all comes from your mind, if you believe you can do great things.

Note to self: Let Go

Let go of trying to prove something that is not yet apparent. Be patient.

Let go of trying to catch up with everyone else. Life is not a race.

Let go of trying to be strong. You are human.

Let go of beating yourself over things. You are perfect regardless.

Let go of over analysing the past and thinking ahead. The present is only that exists.

Let go of all negatives. They can create your future.

Just let go of the anxiety and relax.

Act

Okay, so for a long time now I have been so inspired by others yet I failed to see that even though I wanted to do the same thing I was lacking a special ingredient.

Acting

Basically, the quote “Be the change you want to see” was implanted in my head for a long time but I forgot that I wasn’t actually doing it. It was all in my head so I thought it was already done. This post is the most significant to me because I am actually acting on what I believe in more than just thinking and talking about it. As much as it scares me that I am doing things outside of my comfort zone I believe the time is now over-due. Now is the time.

My writing might not be as good as I want it to be, I can be shy and insecure and sometimes I lack belief in myself. However as I remember to remind myself to believe in myself everyday I know I can be, do and have anything I want.

This is me.

Simple…